Friday, November 18

Sharing responsibilities... does that actually happen?

From my calculations, the girls are 178 days old.

I have been getting up to pump every 3-4 hours during the night for 178 nights.  (Though usually much more frequently with the girls wake up schedule.)

Zoe spent 11 days in the NICU.

Sydney spent 13 days in the NICU.

So I have had two babies in my house for 165 nights.

(Though if we're being technical they spent 2 nights with my parents.)

So for arguments sake, I have done every single night time feeding/diaper change/soothing for 163 nights.

Times two babies.

And I have not slept more than 4 hours in a row for 178 days.

And I have not slept a full night since at least March.

And I have not slept more than probably 3 full nights back-to-back since before Colby was born.

(He STILL wakes up 2-3 times a night begging for water.)

Johnny, on the other hand, was in charge a total of 2 "Colby nights" in the beginning + the time I was on bedrest in the hospital. (I was in the hospital 20 days)

So, you can imagine my annoyance when he was getting ready to go to a comedy show tonight (I was getting ready to put the 3 kiddos to bed) and sarcastically said "You know the best part?  I'll probably get home at like 3am and you'll still wake me up at 7!"


Adam and Julia said...

oh husbands! don't you just love them...and hate them at the same

Hoping for our own Peanut said...

Oh my gosh. You so need a night out and or off!! I understand its hard for them to help while youre breastfeeding, but could you at least give a bottle and get a long stretch in there? Hell, ILL come over and feed the girls. ;)

Jen: Proud Mom of 7 Adopted Miracle Blessings said...

I so understand... PLEASE give Johnny fair warning- like on Friday night, you (Johnny) are getting up and feeding both babies their bottles- and giving Colby water, etc... go find a quiet place in the house, or a hotel room, or your parents' home and SLEEP!!! You need it, you deserve it... you will feel so much better!!! Have your breast pump with you just in case your boobs wake you up- otherwise- let Johnny handle 1 or both nights on the weekend!!!

If you don't make him do it, he will never appreciate all you are doing and the kids will survive... I promise!!!


sunflowerchilde said...

I'm SO sorry! I went through a lot of this, too, still do sometimes. Hang in there, if you can do what the other suggest and try to get some rest do it. But if not, know that it WILL get better, and you're creating a bond and an attachment with your children. That's how I get through when my husband is away on business for a week at a time and I am doing everything alone and then he complains about being tired of hotel life and I think "what I wouldn't give for a night off from washing the dishes!" I know that I AM getting something in exchange, even if it's hard to realize it all the time. You won't regret your commitment in the end. You're a STRONG woman!

But yeah, I could have totally done without the sarcastic comment, too.