Saturday, April 9

High Risk Appt

Yesterday we had another high risk at the ATU. One of the doctors (fellows?) I really like was there but so was Dr. R which I wasn't too thrilled about. The fellow did the ultrasound and both babies were ridiculously active as always. It just doesn't get old, does it?? It was just so bizarre to me to think that we were watching them INSIDE at 27w4d. At this time I was watching over Colby on the outside. So weird! We got to watch practice breaths and we never got these last time. :)

But the check also showed a shortened cervix. So, after a discussion with Dr. R (ugh!) I was sent up to traige to be admitted for steroids and to be watched for a few days. As far as I know I'm only going to be here until Monday when I hit 28 weeks. But it's always in the air, right?

Dr. R was driving me crazy as usual-- once again she wanted to know why we were being monitored so closely. Seriously, you can't read a file? Or remember? I've met about 15 doctors/nurses/residents already in my 24 hours and they all knew the situation about my boys before and what's happening now. And I've only met them ONCE.

The other thing that peeved me was she was going on and on about how we're 28 weeks on Monday and then we can stop worrying. So in her opinion it's not a big deal to be monitored closely or do bedrest. And yes, I know that a 28 week baby is MUCH better than 24 or 27 or anywhere in between. But please don't tell me that 28 weeks means that you're out of the woods. I was talking to a neonatologist today, and yes, 28 weeks does decrease the chance of eye disease and brain bleeds, etc. But they're not eliminated and then there is still the huge issue of breathing. Yes, I am SO happy to have gotten here, but it's not good enough. And I feel like Dr. R wants to wipe her hands of me and my babies just because we're 28 weeks. I'm okay with that as long as I get another awesome doctor (Dr. K!) but I just couldn't believe that she was so cavalier about hitting 28 weeks.

But the short of it is that I'm here and missing my Bug like crazy. He came and visited for several hours today (and did amazingly!) It's not the same as cuddling him to sleep though...

8 comments:

Michele said...

sending prayers and hugs...

svallely said...

Ugh.... 28 weeks is def. better than 24 or 27... but its no where near 30, 34, 36, or 40! That's so annoying that your doc is being like that. I hope you and those babies make it all the way to full term! I am glad you got the steroids though just in case! Keep those babies cooking... and rest! The bug will be just fine! :)

Devon said...

hang in there!

congrats on 28 weeks! and despite your stupid doctor, i'm glad you are well aware of your body and what needs to be done! you go girl!

Hoping for our own Peanut said...

You must be so sad without Colby! Im sorry youre stuck in the hospital. I hope you can go home Monday and stay pregnant until JUNE!

Catherine W said...

Thinking of you and your little ones. You must be missing Colby like mad!

I had the same experiences at scans, thinking that I was holding J 'on the outside' last time!

Obviously 28 weeks is fantastic (I felt a lot better once I'd got there) but we all know it is no guarantee and obviously there would still be breathing issues. Grrrr. Hope you get a lovely doctor who will listen to your concerns.

Fingers and toes crossed for you xo

Anonymous said...

Aargh, I wish you could get a better doctor. But yay for 28 weeks! Keepin' my fingers crossed for another couple months of growth! :)

Our baby girl is just 5 weeks old. We're meeting with the RE next week to talk about starting the IF rollercoaster in July. I'm going to be 40 soon so we feel like we need to move quickly. But I feel so bad about taking time and resources away from Davie! How aer you handling things with Colby? I feel so guilty, but I do want our baby girl to have a sibling if at all possible!

Robbie said...

Ok, I am not sure if this is possible, but this is what I would have done/do in your situation. When Dr. R mentions "28 weeks" and is all cavalier about it, I would have said " Um... you can say that because you didn't lose a child at this point like we did. I don't think there is anything to be cavalier about at the moment, and I don't think I will be breathe easy until these babies are born healthy. If you would like to know everything that happened, read my file, you know, the one in your hands, like right now. Yeah, that one. "
Then, when I am making my next appointment, I would tell the appointment making girl " Not Dr. R." Or, let her make the appt, and then call back later and cancel. Call back another day, and ask for Dr. K, or the dr of your preference, and make an appt with them.

Unknown said...

So glad that you are almost at 28 weeks but with Tyler being born at 28 weeks / 4 days I have watched and worried about his progress along with Stacy & BJ. You are right...28 weeks is a lot better than 27,26 or whatever but there are still issues. That doctor R is an idiot and I can understand your frustration. I absolutely concur with what Robbie just said above. You have a right as the patient to insist on certain things and close monitoring is one of them. We are all thinking and praying for you and the babies.