tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3873947707463698488.post5492230472808341935..comments2023-11-02T11:28:33.088-04:00Comments on Adventures In Life: That morning...Stacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06675197616280434252noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3873947707463698488.post-58877846388512709452010-01-24T18:45:11.416-05:002010-01-24T18:45:11.416-05:00I go through the same questions myself. But as eve...I go through the same questions myself. But as everyone else has said already, you loved your sons. You loved them and every decision you ever took was made from your love for them. <br /><br />I'm so sorry. Just so sorry. Connor & Colby were so loved, I wish that both your little boys had made it out of the NICU. xoCatherine Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618295389400457254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3873947707463698488.post-91470780633486689382009-08-07T20:29:47.142-04:002009-08-07T20:29:47.142-04:00Please don't ever question yourself or what yo...Please don't ever question yourself or what you could have done. You love your boys and everything you did was guided by that. I'm so sorry about Connor and that you have to go through such pain.Mernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3873947707463698488.post-66425852118575164052009-08-07T10:06:06.367-04:002009-08-07T10:06:06.367-04:00Please don't question yourself or consider you...Please don't question yourself or consider your choices selfish!!!<br /><br />You were in a once in a lifetime nightmare experience.<br /><br />Please know that your family continues to be in my prayers and thoughts!!!<br /><br />Hugs!!!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03712935944309152407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3873947707463698488.post-58670763040770860142009-08-07T09:36:34.890-04:002009-08-07T09:36:34.890-04:00You did not do anything to bring this on. You didn...You did not do anything to bring this on. You didn't. Horrible things happen sometimes, even when we've done everything perfectly. I know it's hard not to blame yourself, but you are not to blame.<br /><br />I can't help but think that something good will grow out of your grief eventually. Not that the pain and heartache and longing will ever go away, or that you'll "get over it" (what a stupid, stupid thing to imagine--and if anyone ever says this to you, let me punch them, please), but that alongside the sorrow, something else will emerge and will enrich and strengthen you. That will be Connor's gift to you, and through you to the world. <br /><br />I wish I could do something to ease your pain. I am so sorry you've had to face this.Shinejilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03353174053245279899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3873947707463698488.post-4755959525458306022009-08-06T17:27:53.797-04:002009-08-06T17:27:53.797-04:00Hey stace. . .thanks for sharing. What a horrible...Hey stace. . .thanks for sharing. What a horrible experience.<br /><br />But please fight those doubts. There's no way you can blame yourself!! <br /><br />You were a good mom, you are a good mom, and there's no doubt at all that you will continue to be one.Billnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3873947707463698488.post-65385460232188479212009-08-06T16:29:06.073-04:002009-08-06T16:29:06.073-04:00Thank you for sharing this very personal experienc...Thank you for sharing this very personal experience. All I can say is that you did nothing wrong. These things happen sometimes, and unfortunately, we don't always know why. But please have comfort that you did all you could, and that you were the best Mom in the world to Connor.<br /><br />You have had to go through so much at such a young age, and I'm so sorry for that.<br /><br />Constantly thinking of you and your family.Infertility is Hardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00674656558321553310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3873947707463698488.post-24499110282329923002009-08-06T15:25:55.010-04:002009-08-06T15:25:55.010-04:00Thanks for sharing your story. It is heartbreakin...Thanks for sharing your story. It is heartbreaking but I hope that sharing it lets us hold some of the burden with you. <br /><br />There is so much beauty in the time you had with him even though I'm sure that's hard to see from your perspective right now.<br /><br />I know I would be questioning myself if I were in your shoes but if it helps to hear it I assure you it was nothing you did or didn't do. <br /><br />You all continue to be in my thoughts.<br /><br />Jen PNUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09329029489562919509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3873947707463698488.post-28762535612981421422009-08-06T14:08:06.515-04:002009-08-06T14:08:06.515-04:00Still thinking of you and still praying God gives ...Still thinking of you and still praying God gives you strength.ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11878485271999172869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3873947707463698488.post-78077862875366868862009-08-06T13:47:40.875-04:002009-08-06T13:47:40.875-04:00Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us...Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us. <br /><br />You and your family remain in my thoughts and prayers.Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01196133190299947768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3873947707463698488.post-24672141520452817632009-08-06T13:19:06.710-04:002009-08-06T13:19:06.710-04:00The questions can drive you mad. Even now, I still...The questions can drive you mad. Even now, I still find myself going over the litany of questions and of what if I'd done thises and what if I'd done thats. I wish that it was as easy as saying "try not to think about it" but we are their mothers. We will always think about it. We will always wonder what else we could have done.<br /><br />In the end, the only thing that we have any control over is loving them. Loving them in the womb, loving them on earth, loving them when they arent with us physically anymore. We have complete control over that and, as long as we continue to love them with all that we are, we can never fail them. <br /><br />Sending you hugs today and thinking of your precious boys.Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.com